Welcome to They Is My Pronoun!
Whereas many blogs or news stories on singular they as a gender-neutral pronoun are invested in the debate as to whether ‘they’ as a singular pronoun is grammatically correct, TIMP is different.
Instead of focusing on grammar, TIMP focuses on actually using singular they in real life, and on enabling the choice to use gender-neutral pronouns for yourself or for others.
TIMP is dedicated to a few simple ideas:
1. You are not a bad person or homophobic or transphobic or ignorant just because using they stresses you out.
There are many reasons why using they as a singular pronoun is hard. TIMP is about recognizing this and exploring where resistance comes from. TIMP offers suggestions for working through difficulty, and not arguments about why it shouldn’t be difficult.
2. When people respect your choice of pronoun, this feels really good – good enough to make a big difference in someone’s quality of life and well-being.
Most people who have not had to ask others to use a particular pronoun do not realize how good this feels. You can generate so much happiness, make such a large contribution to someone’s well-being, and even make someone feel better about being in a workplace or group or get-together, just by using the pronoun they ask for, and apologizing when you make a mistake. You can make someone want to come back to your office, clinic, store, house, or Facebook page. It is truly astonishing what a difference this can make.
3. Using they gets easier with practice and time, and it is worth it.
So, scroll on down and stay tuned to TIMP for answers to questions from users, allies and curious questioners of all kinds (which I accept, even anonymously, on my twin Tumblr site), reflections and resources on singular they!
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